I’ve agreed to lose my virginity with seven mates in an orgy in Magaluf

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DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE agreed to lose my virginity with seven mates in an orgy in Magaluf.

While I am excited by the idea, I am really nervous too.

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I am nervous after agreeing to an orgy to lose my virginity

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There’s me, two other lads and five girls in our friendship group.

We’re all 18 and in our final year of school.

Three months ago, we were all drinking around a mate’s house when we got on to the subject of sex.

We were all complaining that we are still virgins.

None of us liked the idea of going to uni without having had sex.

Then one of us joked that we might as well get off with each other to get it over with. Somehow this turned into an actual plan.

It never seemed a good idea to me until one of the girls, who I’ve fancied for ages, was really up for it.

She friend-zoned me when I asked her out a couple of years ago.

I thought sex with her, albeit part of an orgy, might make her see me differently.

We’ve agreed it’ll happen when we go for our school leavers’ holiday to Magaluf in the summer.

But the nearer the date gets, the more worried I am.

As much as I’m excited to see the girl of my dreams naked, I don’t know if I could ever look my male mates in the eye after seeing everything.

I’m not gay and definitely don’t want to experiment with that.

I just don’t know what is expected of me at this orgy I’ve agreed to.

But with three boys and five girls surely I’ve a good chance of being able to choose who I get together with?

And what if this messes up our friendships for ever?

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DEIDRE SAYS: This orgy has a high chance of compromising your friendships.

It sounds like you have all agreed to group sex without any proper discussion of what this will entail.

When you have sex for the first time it is important to feel you are in a safe environment with someone you really care for.

Embarking on an orgy, with no idea of each other’s expectations, preferences or boundaries is a recipe for disaster, especially as you are all virgins.

Do you really want to risk your friendship group because you are in a hurry to have sex?

Take your time to find someone you really like and who you feel comfortable with before contemplating losing your virginity.

As your seven friends are also virgins, there is a strong chance that plenty of other people at university will be too.

Please do not be embarrassed. There is no rush.

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Encourage your son to make other friendships too.



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