DEAR DEIDRE: LAST month, as I was trying to find the email confirmation of our upcoming holiday on my husband’s laptop, I stumbled across some pretty graphic images.
Now I’m wondering if the man I’ve lived with for the last 25 years is a secret paedophile.
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He’s 57, I’m 53. We met when we both joined the civil service straight out of school.
He’s amazing – thoughtful, caring and the most incredible father.
But now I’m questioning who he really is.
I found folder after folder of sexually explicit images of young women and children. It made me feel sick.
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I need to talk to him and ask him why he has these images.
But I’m scared.
I’m having panic attacks most days because I don’t know what to do.
DEIDRE SAYS: You need to sit your husband down and ask him, as bottling this up is not good for your mental health.
You also need to consider what your next steps are. The Internet Watch Foundation (iwf.org.uk) explains your options.
It might help to speak to a professional who can help you process this and give you some coping strategies.
I’m sending you my support pack, How Counselling Can Help.