DEAR DEIDRE: DEALING with my husband’s interfering mother is a nightmare.
She has never liked me and treats him badly, too.
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We’ve been married for 20 years. I’m 45, he’s 47 and we have two teenage sons.
He works away a lot and his 70-year-old mum always makes him feel guilty about not being around.
She’ll turn up at our house unannounced and expect to be entertained, even if he’s away.
She doesn’t care if I have work or housework to do and never offers to help.
Instead, she just criticises me, saying the house is a mess or my cooking is awful.
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My husband won’t stand up to it and sometimes even sides with her. This is starting to affect our marriage as we argue about it so much.
I want to cut her out of my life, but how can I? She’s my husband’s mum and kids’ grandma.
DEIDRE SAYS: You need to feel your husband is on your side. And he needs to make his mum see that her behaviour isn’t right.
Tell him how this is affecting you. Give him my support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, to help him.
You could both do with support from Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222).