I agreed to marry a man who I know will cheat on me again


DEAR DEIDRE: MY long-distance lover told me he was lonely and bored when I couldn’t be with him, but I’ve discovered he has been having sex with a married woman.

My suspicions were aroused when I noticed how he was always online, but seemed detached whenever we were together.


On the night we got engaged, I checked his phone and found two dating apps

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I had a sneaky peek at this phone and discovered as soon as I left on a Sunday afternoon, she arrived for sex.

And they hadn’t been using any protection, as she gave him herpes.

I am 37 and my partner is 39. We have been together for almost two years but only see each other on weekends, as we live 200 miles apart.

After my grim discovery, I ended our relationship but I couldn’t find the will to block him.

We were still chatting from time to time. Then he was made redundant and decided to come over to see me.

He was fighting for us and doing everything he could for me.

He treated me like a princess and apologised for everything, begging me to forgive him. I’ve got to admit, I loved the attention.

So when he surprised me with a stunning engagement ring, I said yes. But even then, deep down, I knew it wasn’t right.

On the night we got engaged, I checked his phone again and saw he’d finished with the married woman.

But I also found two dating apps he is currently using to chat with other women, a fake Instagram account and he is flirting with three more women on Whatsapp.

To add insult to injury, he’s been sending sexy videos and photos of himself to all of these women.

I am absolutely devastated and can’t understand why he would do this to me.

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Why did he propose and waste so much money on a ring if I don’t mean anything to him?

I know he will never change so why can’t I just finish with him?

DEIDRE SAYS: Long-distance loving can be difficult to maintain, but don’t blame yourself. You gave him a second chance but he is a proven cheat.

He may have proposed out of guilt over his behaviour but he has shown the world he doesn’t deserve your love.

Broadcasting your engagement and then deceiving you with these other women is shabby behaviour.

It is your low self-worth that keeps you tied to him, but you can break free. He isn’t going to change.

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Block him on social media this time so he can’t contact you again. You will look back in a while and realise how wrong he was for you.


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